Jeremy and I have always loved wine country, and being outdoors.We wanted a wedding that gave us the feeling of being outside- away from the complicated city world- a retreat that allowed us to relax and breathe into the celebration of our love.
We wanted the “theme” of the wedding to carry our personality as a couple – casually classy; extraordinarily festive; expansive; flavorful; eclectic; easy-going; just plain fun. We had no set color palate, but when we chose a September 19th wedding date we knew we wanted to channel the fall vibe by using warm colors, seasonal fruits, and everything rustic.
I am an artist, and Jeremy and I are very aesthetically aligned, so coming up with the idea was easy for us. Our venue, caterer, dessert, and florist were key pieces to the puzzle as far as bringing this vision together.
I am an artist, and Jeremy and I are very aesthetically aligned, so coming up with the idea was easy for us. Our venue, caterer, dessert, and florist were key pieces to the puzzle as far as bringing this vision together. At first I was set on wearing a dress that wasn’t white – but when I tried on my Katie May dress I knew this was perfect. I planned to dress it up with lots of fun, funky jewelry to channel a bohemian vibe. I wanted to feel like “me.” Jeremy’s suit was quite easy to find – we bought it from Paul Smith – loved it because it had a perfectly modern edge to it but would be great for a rustic wedding with some brown shoes.
In lieu of a bridal party, we had three little blonde flower girls – our nieces! My mother and I found three matching lace dresses at H&M, then bought sage green satin ribbon to tie around their waists. We bought and decorated their baskets ourselves… the look was tied together with the adorable floral crowns that our florist Laura Miller created！We wanted the flowers at our wedding to be simple, elegant, and seasonal. Our venue was already gorgeous, so we knew we didn’t need a ton of flowers to ‘spice the place up.’ Our florist worked within our low-ish budget to create a look that was effortlessly elegant.
As to my bouquet- I think I showed her a bunch of idea photos, but generally said, go with whatever is pretty and seasonal – “surprise me!”She chose bright orange and peach wildflowers mixed with roses for my bouquet, with lots of cascading greenery and gorgeous green ribbons tied around the stems. Everyone’s personal flowers used the same kinds and colors of flowers- things with rich fall vibes. We loved it!Our other flowers were mostly done in bud vases and mixed in with fruits and nuts in bowls, giving the impression of a fall feast table. It was perfect and Laura absolutely nailed it!
Our ceremony was under the oak trees, overlooking the incredible vineyards at Kunde… just as the sun was setting. Jeremy’s father, Leroy, officiated the ceremony and worked with us to come up with a spirited ceremony that was incredibly magical and perfectly suited to us as a couple! It was so special to have him involved. We brought influences from Buddhism, Christianity, and the Native American spiritual traditions into our ceremony, to create something diverse and beautiful.Our aisle was decorated with rugs – and the rug we stood on during our ceremony is actually my parent’s front entry rug! Now, whenever they come home to their front door, they can remember our wedding! 😉
We walked in to “Sea of Love” as sung by Cat Power, and skipped away to “Shelter Song” by Temples. We got a dried flower confetti send-off as we went out! We dried all the flower ourselves over the course of about a year!We wanted our wedding to be FUN! (I think we pulled it off) And to carry the vibe of some of our favorite things about wine country- we had lawn games (corn hole toss and bocci ball), floor pillows and picnic blankets surrounding low tables, wine barrels and delicious passed hour devours as the sun was setting.
For dinner, we created a setup with all extra-long farm tables, and family style dining for a fun, casual yet classy vibe. Our tables were decorated with bud vases, and each guest plate had a pomegranate or persimmon on top (seasonal fruits)! We chose food from Alex’s catering that had a California vibe. It was delicious! Our dessert was seasonal fruit pie from Mission Pie- we don’t like cake much, and wanted to use as many local touches from our favorite places as possible. The addition of this pie to our wedding was the perfect touch.We busted open a piñata to kick off the reception! Filled with candy and rose petals, it was custom made for us by a woman in our neighborhood!
We were so moved by the presence of our beloved family and friends that, truly, if anything had gone wrong we would never have noticed! We were blessed by beautiful toasts, and an unforgettable acoustic performance by Jeremy’s cousin Firefly, just as the last evening light as fading and the crickets were beginning to chirp. It was unforgettable!
Our DJ was great at reading the crowd- we picked an “indie DJ” since we have very specific taste in music and wanted someone who would understand our taste as well as react to our crowd of fellow musicians, artists and music lovers. Everyone was pleased!Off in the distance, we had a projector set up with a Swiss art film playing – It’s called “The Right Way,” and was a film Jeremy and I stumbled upon in the SFMoMa early in our relationship. We were captivated by its characters, their interactions, their adventures, and the hilarious juxtaposition of people in animal costumes in the epic Swiss Alps. We knew that we had to have this little piece of our relationship at our wedding. Our niece Eleanor was telling me all about it all night, I was glad to see that people escaped to enjoy this unusual piece!
We had no first dance, no father daughter dance, no big traditions… no flower toss, no money dance, no bride and groom “theme” stuff…. We knew from the beginning that this wedding didn’t need to feel like a wedding. We are not a traditional couple, we do not have traditional families… We just knew we wanted to have the best party ever to celebrate our love! We wanted everyone to have a blast. We did.
There were just so many personal diy attributes to our wedding that I can barely remember them all! We made sure there were lots of unexpected fun touches that made it memorable for us as well as our guests.
We met in the city, we fell in love in the city.He proposed in a castle.Unbeknownst to either of us, I moved into the city a block away from where Jeremy lived. After just a month of living there, we met, and ran into one another a couple of times at the dive bar on the corner. Then, a few weeks later, he spotted me in an art gallery in our neighborhood, and knew that if he didn’t ask me to join his him and his friend on a long walk across the city to the Independent, he would regret it. Not remembering my name, he called me “Idaho Girl,” because I had just moved to the city from Idaho. He asked if I wanted to come. I was wearing cowboy boots. I said it sounded like a long walk, and that I was in!
A long walk can teach you a lot about someone, and we figured out pretty quickly that there was something incredible going on.Not much longer after that night, we realized that we were in love!We have spent the last few years getting to know one another and falling in love even more- our love of traveling, music, and art has taken us on countless incredible journeys together. Our conversations about anything and everything (from questioning the nature of reality to remarking on the sounds of our favorite albums) cement us together in love, investigation and laughter.
We traveled to Portugal in June 2014. One day, when exploring an incredible castle complex in Sintra called Quinta de Regaleira, Jeremy darted up the stairs of a castle turret, knowing I’d follow him. When I reached the top, I was greeted with not only an incredible view…. but also with a magnificent proposal! Our wedding rings were something we chose to reflect our personalities. I found a beautiful citrine point ring, set in bronze made by Susan Ritter, which we got from Paxton Gate in San Francisco. (I am not into diamonds, and rings like this suit my personal style!) Jeremy’s ring, a pounded palladium white gold band, was made at Love & Luxe, also in San Francisco. We wanted to ‘keep it local’ with just about everything we could for our wedding.Our wedding was SO much fun, and so uniquely “us”!
Our advice for future couples: Your wedding day is a celebration of YOU and YOUR LOVE! So you are free to celebrate your love however it makes sense to you. If you want to pull out all the stops for a lavish bash – or if you want to go easy and have a BBQ – remember that it’s yours, and you and your guests will be happy that your day reflects you!Oh, and have FUN
We have spent the last few years getting to know one another and falling in love even more- our love of traveling, music, and art has taken us on countless incredible journeys together. Our conversations about anything and everything cement us together in love, investigation and laughter.